Truth about The Golden “O”
Female Ejaculation… there… I said it and you are probably feeling a little uncomfortable. I know that when I initially heard of it, I couldn’t understand and honestly thought it was bogus. My initial thought was, “Okay, so she peed on him and is trying to come up with a story to cover for herself.” How embarrassing, right? In fact, “squirting” is extremely hot for a man and there are a multitude of porn videos on this. Why in the world would this be a turn on?
The Why:
First reason is that men are very visual and like to be able to “see” proof that they are exciting a woman. What would be the ultimate way to do this? Try covering them in female juices… some men apparently love this! Another reason that these men like it is because it boosts their ego.
They feel like “the man” and get excited over the fact that they made a woman feel so good that she “squirted.” There is a sense of pride that they had that special touch to make it happen.
For women, they tend to feel that once you get over the initial nervousness of squirting, the orgasms are extremely powerful. From person experience, it entails an intense feeling of “fullness” and then a surge of warmth and wetness. Many women still feel that it is taboo and are nervous talking about it to other females. Luckily most partners of women who squirt love it and are open to the experience.
The How:
Many women are able to ejaculate if their G-spot is stimulated but since all women are unique, this can vary. There are steps that can be taken to attempt to make your partner squirt if both of you are open to this. Don’t be disappointed if it does not work as well as anticipated. Each woman’s body varies and may not be conducive to this method.
Before you begin, the woman should empty her bladder to ensure that the fluid is not urine. The more relaxed and less nervous that a woman is that she will not “pee” on her partner, the more likely she will be able to “squirt.”
1: The first step is to turn on your woman… make sure that she is really in the mood or it probably won’t work. Do the things that you know drive her wild such as kissing her neck, massaging her body, or talking dirty to her.
2: Second, find her G-spot, which is about one finger length up. It typically has a different texture than the rest of her vaginal walls and may feel rough or raised.
3: Next, explore the G-Spot and experiment on how it feels. Rub the spot or move back and forth with your finger to determine what she likes. She may say that she feels that she has to urinate but since she has already emptied her bladder, this should not be a concern.
4: The fourth step is to rub the G-Spot with your finger or a toy so that it continues to be stimulated. If you continue this motion the woman should notice that the feeling of urinating passes and turns into an intense feeling of pleasure. If the woman can remain open to the pleasure and focus on the feelings she is having physically she will be more apt to ejaculate. If a woman pushes with her pelvic muscles she is also more likely to “push out” the orgasm and fluids.
5: In the final step the woman starts to ejaculate and the man should notice a clear fluid coming out of her urethra. It may sprinkle out, or squirt out a larger amount. It may be a good idea to keep a towel handy or to place the towel beneath the woman before you begin.
Regardless of whether or not you and your woman enjoy the experience of “squirting” it gives you a chance to learn a lot about her and what she likes.
Science:
Although scientists and doctors still do not fully understand what female ejaculation actually is there has been quite a bit of research. Most recently, scientists have determined that women have what they term as a female prostate also known as the “Skene’s glands.” These are small glands located near the end of the urethra. In a study conducted by the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2007, it was determined that the fluid actually being “squirted” consisted of prostate plasma (from the Skene’s glands) and not actually urine. There were small traces of urine in the fluid, but research has also shown that there are small traces of urine in a male’s ejaculation. Female ejaculation (squirting) tends to be a clear fluid whereas female cum is a small amount of thick, white substance that helps with lubrication.
While some women tend to “squirt” every time they have sex, there are some women who are not physically able to do this due to the placement of the Skene’s gland and the inability to produce prostate fluid.
Men who have commented about their partner’s ejaculation state that the fluid that is expelled tends to taste and smell sweet… very different from the acidic smell and taste of urine. Although many who have never experienced this say that it is not something that they want to try, when it does happen to them… well, there are no complaints!
Social Taboo:
Much like female masturbation, female ejaculation still tends to be a social taboo and people rarely talk about it. An interesting fact is that female ejaculation was written about and studied as far back as 2000 years ago. In ancient Asia, female ejaculation was very well known and mentioned in several Taoist texts starting in the 4th century.
Aristotle even made a reference to the emission of female fluids as early as 300 B.C. in Western cultures, and in the 2nd century it was noted by Galen (Journal of Sexual Medicine, 2010). In the 16th century, Reinjier De Graaf provided the first initial scientific evidence of female ejaculation and information, about the periurethral glands – also known as the female prostate (Journal of Sexual Medicine, 2010). Interestingly in 2014, the UK banned female ejaculation videos in their porn industry stating that there is not enough scientific evidence to prove that it actually happens and therefore it cannot be aired openly on their porn sites.
So with this information why are current researchers acting as though they have never heard of this before? Why does it need to be tested over and over to ensure that this is a real physical ability of a woman’s body?
When they did research in 2007 to look at the fluids that were ejected, they only used two women in their 40’s to determine that female ejaculation does seem to come from the female prostate gland. Although I am an avid believer in female ejaculation, I have to admit that this is not truly a valid study and more needs to be done in the field of research. So why is there not a lot of research in this area? Is it due to social constraints? Are women too afraid of the stigma to come forward and be a research participant?
There are men who still ridicule women if they squirt (even though they have not experienced it themselves), and make fun of the concept. Just reading some of the male responses in the comment sections after articles about female ejaculation made me cringe. I was relieved to read a lot of comments from men and women who were supportive of this phenomenon and hope it becomes more socially acceptable over time. In reality, if it feels good, what could possibly be wrong with it? So sit back and relax… and cover your partner in your female essence… take it from me… they will love it!
(Note from The Editor: Many thanks to Jennifer for being so candid about such a taboo subject. To read more from Jennifer, you can check out her author page here or read more of her musings – visit her Blog KarmaBites here.)
