… I am Pissed Trump Won
There is a massive difference. Let me tell you why.
I have stopped myself from writing this article so many times. I have stopped myself posting my true thoughts on Facebook. I have stopped myself saying this out loud so many times… why…? Because I feel judged. But now I am pissed. I am pissed that I ‘feel judged’ and because this is The Glass House (a place which advocates transparency, honesty and non-judgment) – I have decided to buck up, woman-up and have my say.
I am not pissed Hillary lost.
I personally don’t believe she was ever the right person to lead the country. I don’t trust her, I don’t believe her. I was frustrated at how she handled her campaign and that she tried to ‘fight with the big boys’ rather than run her election the way it should have been run.
I believe in the underdog. I believe that America wanted change. That most of America wanted to see something happen. That most people voted Trump because they are fighting against a broken establishment.
And I don’t disagree.
It was time for an outsider. Time for fresh blood and something new. I love Obama. I don’t think he did a bad job at all, but I understand that American people may have felt it was time for someone from outside of the elitist ‘crime‘ families to stand up and speak for a nation that feels so utterly broken right now.
They didn’t want another Clinton, they don’t want another Bush – they didn’t want an elderly ageing Bernie Sanders. They wanted fire, passion and a desire to change the country for the better. They wanted fresh blood.
I get that. I do.
But Trump?
Why am I pissed? Not because I wanted a woman in the White House. Not because I am a feminist and I want to burn my bra on the steps of The Hill. I am pissed because we have essentially allowed the class bully to sit on the throne in the most powerful and influential room in the world.
I am pissed because the only alternative to the ‘establishment’ was a racist, homophobic, xenophobic predator. I am pissed because I can’t say that out loud; because when I do everyone assumes that because I am a woman, I wanted THE WOMAN to win!
NO I DIDN’T
I wanted anyone but the BULLY to win. I wanted there to be another choice. If that is a woman, well then bonus!
But in all reality, I want the first FEMALE President in my lifetime to be someone who deserves the title. Someone who can live up to the job and the massive shoes she will have to fill and justify every single day of her presidency. I am not sure that person would have been Hillary. That doesn’t mean I don’t want a woman to get there at some point soon – of course I do. But I would have been happy if Bernie was the candidate and I would have bide my time until another strong, powerful and influential woman came along to try again.
On November 9th – we allowed the whole world to believe that you can be the class bully and still be the most powerful man in the world. Is that what we are teaching our children? It is certainly not a role model I want my son looking up to. It is not a path or footsteps I would want him to follow in.
Literally ANYONE could have run against Trump, Kermit the god-damn-frog could have run against Trump and I would have voted for him.
Why? Because the very fact that a bully is now sitting in that seat terrifies me.
But what makes the rage in my blood boil even more is that everyone is assuming that I am a FEMINIST because I am angry that Trump won.
No. I am not. I would have rather had another white male president, a green puppet frog or a bloody 7 year old CHILD sat in that seat than someone who believes it is OK to bully.
I believe Americans are angry not because it is not a woman that won, but because the person that won is someone that hates women so much. Because instead of a woman, we chose someone who hates everything we have striven to achieve in the last 100 years.
We are a world that has evolved to the point where (in many places) anyone can marry who they love regardless of colour, race, religion or sex. We have evolved into a world that now allows anyone the right to a job so long as they work their ass of to get it, no matter your sex, religion or colour. And yes, before you scream at me that there are no jobs, that they are all moving out of the country and that is what Trump is fighting against… I know that. I am not uneducated. I GET that things need to change… but devolving the world to the point where hatred and segregation is apparently the only answer to that problem is just god damn wrong.
You don’t fix a problem by throwing a bully in the ring. You don’t move forward by regressing back 200 years. You don’t fix a crack by creating more cracks in the china.
In my world, in today’s world, in the world that I brought my daughters and son into… I am proud to say that in most countries around the world, women no longer have to skulk down dirty back-end alley ways to have illegal procedures carried out in secret because they are pregnant due to rape. Yet Trump would rather those women be in jail for murder?
In my world we embrace difference and we do not judge people with health conditions or impairments. We congratulate those who fight for our nation rather than criticise. We honour our veterans rather than lambaste them for being ‘captured’. In my world we have respect, love and understanding for everyone. Isn’t that a world we hope to create and continue for future generations?
We live in a world where women have the right to vote, to work, to earn, to raise a family alone, to marry either sex… but wait no… we want change now so we are going to take away the rights they have to their own body? Discriminate against them and sexualise them in public?
We have evolved to the point where we are able to vote a black President to sit in the White House – we have evolved to the point where you can sit anywhere on a bus no matter the colour of your skin. But Trump wants to get rid of all Muslims and build a wall in front of Mexico.
Trump doesn’t want to fix what is broken. He wants to take us back 150 years and start again… but the world doesn’t work that way.
Now, again, I have to justify myself here – I am an educated woman and I understand that although this is what Trump WANTS to do, it is unlikely he will be able to do any of these things. The world doesn’t work like that. The White House doesn’t work like that. He can’t just make decisions and change laws, there is procedure and someone will stop him. Despite the cartoons floating around, Trump can’t actually just press a button and carpet bomb Iraq – he can’t… he alone doesn’t have the power to make that decision. There is a process. So no, I am not worried that overnight he will just start shipping out Muslims and Mexicans. I am aware that he can’t. But the fact that he wants to is what bothers me. The fact that he has said in in the way he HAS is what irks me.
Someone said to me yesterday “but that is not what he actually means. It’s just bravado. Underneath the hot air there is good sentiment. We need to fix border issues, we need to fight terrorism. It won’t be as extreme as that, but he needs to make it sound extreme to get people to listen.”
REALLY?
The problem is, it’s not what you mean, it’s how you say it and how it’s heard that actually matters when you are in a position such as his.
What happens the first time there is a shooting of a Mexican or Muslim person in America after he has taken office and the shooter turns around and says ‘yeah but Trump said we needed to send them all back so it’s fine. He said they are all rapists and drug lords, so I am just helping”.
What will he say then? “I didn’t mean it in that way though – I was exaggerating!”
You can’t open Pandora’s box and then stuff it all back in again when you don’t like what spills out. What you say, how it’s said, and how people hear it matters.
“Grab ’em by the pussy” – ‘yeah but that was locker room talk!’
Really? But you are encouraging young men around the world to think it’s OK to say it as long as they add the caveat “yeah but it was just locker room talk, I didn’t really mean it” at the end.
Is that what we are teaching our kids?
We are allowing the bullies, predators, homophobes and racists of the world to believe what they think is right… because that guy said it and he is the President.
So no – I am NOT pissed that Hillary didn’t win. I am PISSED that a Bully won.
Stop tarring me with the Feminist Brush. Stop thinking that I don’t believe in change. Stop assuming that the reasons I am angry are because I don’t understand the state of the world right now. Because I do.
I understand things need to change. I understand that the WORLD needs to change and I understand that 50% of America is so desperate that they are voting for the only other option.
But don’t ever think you have the right to assume that women are angry because they wanted the WOMAN to win… give them a little credit. A woman WILL win one day. And those that care can wait. Will wait. For the right woman.
An election is never about who wins. An election is always about who loses. But this year, America lost.
Not Hillary. Not a woman. America.
Because they let the bully rule the school.
Stop assuming we are ‘feminists’ because we are angry.
I am angry because I am HUMAN. I am angry because it is wrong. I am angry because I would rather have had anyone else in the world in that seat than him and I am not alone.
